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Pronouns and safety

My correctly gendered streak at work has ended yet again today, by yet another coworker that knew me pre-transition. I corrected them and they apologized and moved on, but I remained annoyed for minutes afterwards. I came out rather publicly at work over three years ago, so this should not be new for even those …

Learning to open up

I continue to be a reserved person, and I don’t feel the need to actively work on that. I find myself with more capacity to open up to people now that I’m out and proud, but I don’t feel as though I’ve done anything close to a 180. Before I came out, I was primarily …

Everyone’s First

As a very out trans person, my visibility brings many things in my life. I simultaneously feel empowered and vulnerable because of it. I can never really hope to hide my past and live “stealth”, but my unapologetic visibility pierces the cis bubbles of folks. Where my transness has lead to people’s firsts include: The …

Normalization

Merriam-Webster defines normalize as: to make conform to or reduce to a norm or standard to makeĀ normalĀ (as by a transformation of variables) to bring or restore to a normal condition I decided to register transnormative.org and start blogging again as a process of normalization. Through making writing a normal part of my life, I hope …