Pronouns and safety

My correctly gendered streak at work has ended yet again today, by yet another coworker that knew me pre-transition. I corrected them and they apologized and moved on, but I remained annoyed for minutes afterwards. I came out rather publicly at work over three years ago, so this should not be new for even those …

So you pretty much have gay sex?

I’ve never had gay sex. I’ll let you know what it’s like if I ever find myself having sex with another woman. I am not defined by my genitals, and the orientation of the sex I’m having is not defined by the combined sets of genitals.

Learning to open up

I continue to be a reserved person, and I don’t feel the need to actively work on that. I find myself with more capacity to open up to people now that I’m out and proud, but I don’t feel as though I’ve done anything close to a 180. Before I came out, I was primarily …

[20/35]: Laxmi Narayan Tripathi

A transgender rights activist challenging stereotypes of the hijra community. She was the first transgender person to represent the Asia Pacific region in the UN in 2008. http://www.indianwomenblog.org/exclusive-transgender-laxmi-narayan-tripathi-introduces-her-husband-to-jwb/

[19/35]: Tyler Titus

The first openly transgender person elected in Pennsylvania. A licensed counselor that had already worked with schools, he won a seat on the Erie school board. http://www.pennlive.com/news/2017/11/tyler_titus_wins_seat_to_becom.html

[18/35]: Lisa MIddleton

The first openly transgender person elected to a non-judicial office in California. With her win and the win of Christy Holstege, the Palm Springs City Council is entirely queer. http://www.newnownext.com/palm-springs-transgender-lisa-middleton/11/2017/

Everyone’s First

As a very out trans person, my visibility brings many things in my life. I simultaneously feel empowered and vulnerable because of it. I can never really hope to hide my past and live “stealth”, but my unapologetic visibility pierces the cis bubbles of folks. Where my transness has lead to people’s firsts include: The …

What was your old name?

There’s a reason that trans folks call our names given to us at birth our dead names. That name is dead to us when we live authentically full time. These names may be trivia for some of us, but for others these dead names hold painful memories not to be brought up for your curiosity. …